It is so nice that you are actually thinking about how she might be feeling about her birth experience. She is lucky to have you as a friend. Like others have said just let her come to you with her feelings. Keep in mind, at different times her feelings may change. For me, after a very long labour and things weren't progressing, the c-section was very welcome at the time. About a week later i started thinking about how things could have been different and blamed myself for how it turned out...so if this happens and she talks about the 'if onlys', just listen to her and reassure her. I'm okay now with how it turned out after having talked it through with others that have been supporting me.
Don't just assuem that because she was aiming for a Natural Birth that she is completely devastated with having to have had a c-sect.
You mentioned that she had quite a long labour and by the time it was decided that she should go for a c-sect, she might have come to some kind of understanding that it was the right thing to do.
I think you really need to let her lead the conversation. If there is disappointment, you will pick up on it.
All you can do is be a good friend to her and just be there. Which you already are!
I think what you have written is perfect and I think its wonderful that you are considering her feelings about the birth. I had an emergency c-s too and for the most part nobody really cared about how I felt - I had a healthy baby and that was that. When I did start to talk about my disappointment a lot of people just looked at me as though there was something wrong with me because I had my baby, she was healthy and so was I so they didn't understand why I felt that way! Thank goodness for BB!!! As others have said, sometimes immediately afterwards it is normal to feel relief that labour is over and the baby has arrived safely into the world, it's not until you have time to reflect that more negative feelings start to arise. Just be there for her and be open to discussing her feelings without pushing her if she's not ready to share her feelings with you just yet. Sounds to me like you're a wonderful friend!
Lovely ladies, thank so much for all your kind words and you are so right, I’m totally over thinking this aren’t it. I just need to be my happy, friendly self and that’s all! The rest will come as it needs to. (Hmmmm Now I just need to remember to leave my cranky, argumentative self at home with DH )
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and you are so right, I’m totally over thinking this aren’t it. I just need to be my happy, friendly self and that’s all! The rest will come as it needs to. (Hmmmm 
Now I just need to remember to leave my cranky, argumentative self at home with DH 
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