Anyone else birth without their significant other?

[Junglemum]

So i am having this baby without my husband being here. I feel confident in my ability to do it without him. In fact i didn't really feel like i needed him there the last two times. I get a bit cranky and kind of like my own company when in labour.

My mum will come if she's available and i've had a few friends offer. Which is great, as i'm not sure how i am actually going to get to the hospital otherwise. So i'm not going to be 'alone' as such.

I feel a bit sad for DH, but unfortunately it's the best we can do.

I feel like it's going to be fine, but other people's reactions make me think we're crazy!

So who else's better half didn't make it? Did it all turn out ok?

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

DP didn't get there in time for DD1 and we coped ok, that was outif necessity and I think it was prob better that way.

I felt bad he missed it but you've got to do what you've got to do.


Sent from my iPhone, more than likely while I should be doing something else!

[Olive]

pick me pick me pick me!!
otherwise have bubs this weekend....there will be plenty of help on offer
xxx

[boomba]

Dh nearly did not make it to DS2s birth wanted to keep baking till 6am he came before that haha!
I am sure you will be ok hun you seem confident enough maybe have your DH on speaker phone
I wish I could come help you out too xxx

[megs]

I haven't birthed on my own but I feel like you in that it wouldn't bother me if I had to. Don't get me wrong DH was great and supportive, but the 3 times I have been in labour I go into myself and just focus on the task ahead. With my last birth I actually spent the 30 mins in the shower on my own and he was born 10 mins later. So effectively did it on my own anyway.

I couldn't handle my Mum in the room with me, I think she would distract me and she has reached that age in life when she can get annoying. So yeah I would do it on my own if I had to and I wouldn't feel odd about it, although I can see how others might think I'm strange

[Junglemum]

Megs- That is exactly how i feel. I don't even want Mum there, but i know she is really stoked to have the opportunity. She wont annoy me as such, but i dunno, i just don't feel like i need her there if that makes sense. And i need someone to drive me, it's a long taxi ride.

i wonder if feeling comfortable in a hospital helps. I am one of those strange people that actually feels more at home and comfortable in the hospital than at home. Maybe because i work in one (when i work ), or becasue my past experiences have been good?

Maybe everyone could come along Olive. Put it on skype, yanno, make a party of it. Is there an upper limit to the number of birth support people?

[Ginger]

my dh had too much gas and passed out asleep across the bed.....so, he really wasn't much help.
i think he woke up just in time to see ds1 come out and told me he was a boy. i probably could've worked that bit out myself.

[Olive]

JM
and oh my ginger thats hilarious! though im sure at the time that wasnt!!

[DANNIIM]

JM i'm the same soon as i get into hospital it all progresses nicely from there. It's almost like i'm in the place i'm meant to birth and my body just relax's and gets on with the job.

[Artechim]

My DH stayed at home to look after DS and the midwife picked me up on the way to the birth center. I was really upset that DH wasn't going to be there but in the end I didn't notice. Would have been nice for him to have the memory - afterwards I was o.k with it but he has regretted it ever since.

For me it was such an internal process that I wouldn't have cared if I had been entirely alone or if I had been on stage with a million onlookers. I just did my own thing and I think DH trying to find some way to help would have been distracting!

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

Sorry i was out when i wrote before but wanted to add:

DP made it to DD2's birth but in all honesty i don't think him being there made a huge difference, he sat in the corner reading his paper until my waters broke, ran and got the midwife and then i KNOW he was patting my head and giving me water (in the whole 7min) but i wasn't paying attention to him, not addressing him or asking him for things so i don't think it would have been a huge deal to me NOT having him there.

You sound very confident hun and you have plenty of people willing to put their hands up should you need someone else there, maybe you can get a support person with a great cap plan to make regular phone calls