She also said that after seeing what birth is like on tv, she was coming here to have her baboes!!! Not sure she really meant it, but she wanta an epi!!!
Exactly! When have you ever seen a birth or birth-scenario in TV or a in a movie where the woman is calm, supported, confident? It's almost always a case of "ooh, I think I'm in labour" followed by a mercy-dash straight to the hospital where the heroic doctor states grimly "we gotta get this baby out or we're gonna lose them both", all amid much screaming and moaning and people yelling "STAT!". (ok, that was very soap opera-ish but you get the idea)

Now, I'm not saying that emergency situations don't occur. Of course they do. But the problem here is that, these days, many women's only experience of birth comes from what they have seen on TV/movies. There was a time when women were present at their sister's/friend's/cousin's birth and when women talked more about the realities of birth and it wasn't such a scary thing. In fact, birth was seen as the perfectly normal, beautiful process that it is.

So next time you are talking to a pregnant woman, tell her about an awesome birth-experience that you know of, whether it be your own or someone else's. Surely we all know at least one great story??...

(hmm, stepping off soap-box now... )