It is hard when people say things like this because on the one hand you need to respect their story and their need to tell it, but at the same time, you may know (or believe) that things may not have been quite as they see them. It can be very hard to hear that you may have been wrong to trust your caregiver. I know it was hard for me (different circumstances, but anyway), I would have much rather blamed myself than accept that I was misled (somehow that was worse ).
Hopefully, you will have great care and support and birth the best way you and your baby can do it.