If we feel the urge to push, then why is that not the best thing to do?? isn't it natural to follow the urge?

I can't remember if i pushed on purpose or instinctually, honestly if my dh wasn't holding me on the chair i would have fallen asleep. I was so exhausted i think my own attempts at pushing must have been pretty feeble. Thats why i said in the end to just make the cut, i just couldn't do it anymore - he'd been stuck crowning for again what felt like forever. (The m/w made the decision based on dropping heart rate).

I'm not sure what i'll do this time... i'm not sure i entirely understand the breathing out. I also used hypnobirthing last time, but it went out the window during transition, i was unable to relax or focus on anything.