DS was born by emergency c/s and I did feel a little disappointed at first that things didn't go according to plan (from natural, drug free water birth to epidural and c/s!) and sometimes I wish I'd had the opportunity to experience the whole giving birth thing. However, I had 22 hours of labour before the c/s so I did get to experience some! I will definitely be going for a VBAC if/when I have another as I don't believe in having major surgery when it's not necessary, or pumping drugs into mine (and bubs) systems when they don't need to be. Millions of women give birth naturally and I am just as capable as any of them, so why not give it a go ? And I've done a fair bit of reading into outcomes of c/s vs vb for babies. However, having a c/s doesn't make me less of a mother, or less bonded with DS. And if I need to have another c/s for medical reasons, I will! What your friend said to you was out of order and unasked for. It's your decision to make, so weigh up all the options and do what's best for you, not what others deem is 'right'.