Calling all Midwives!!! Please help!!

[Katstribe]

Hi ok first i will give you my history and then see what you think as i am getting NO support for my choices!

1991 emergancy c-sec with Toxemia
1994 vaginal birth no probs 11&1/2 hr labour
1997 vaginal birth no probs 6ish hr labour
2000 vaginal birth no probs 5ish hr labour
2002 vaginal birth no probs 4ish hr labour
2006 elective c-sec due to breech presentation

Ok so now i am expecting an unexpected bundle on the 26th of April (4wks away), my midwives have been happy to support my decision for a vaginal birth but of course i had to see OB to get clearance and explain my decision. Now my theory and my midwives had agreed that all my labours had progressed problem free without any sign of dramas prior to this last c-sec. So therefore i i would be foolish not to give it a go! Now i really want a vaginal birth as i don't see a need for major abdominal surgery for no reason. I am willing to be at hospital from the start so that they can monitor me all the way and any signs of a problem and i will be more than happy to go in a for a c-sec. I just want to be given the chance to let my body do what it would normally do!!!

Now because my doc has said that i should have c-sec and that if not then maybe i should think of going to another hospital to birth (completely out of question as there is no where within 2hrs to go!) of course the midwives have to support him! So to h*ll with what i want this is what he wants! I don't blame the midwives they are fantastic here but i know they can't go against him. If i present myself at the hospital they have to let me birth my baby but i want support not negative vibes for my duration of pregnancy left!

So i need to know as many views as possible! Who thinks what and SHOULD i just bow down and have c-sec??? I don't want to put my baby or myself at risk but there are bigger risks for me on the opperating table with it being my third c-sec! I know the statistics but he don't care his way of thinking is yeah but he is there if i am on the operating table!!!

Please help anyone everyone. I want as many honest opinions as i can get! So anybody will please answer.
TIA

[Tobily]

I'm not a midwife...but I can see you have had 4 problem free natural births that probably would have been 5 if your last baby had got it's head down....I think you are being completely reasonable in wanting a normal birth and you sound well informed and I think you should tell that OB to shove it.
It is your body, your baby, your birth and your recovery. He is just interested in covering his you-know-what. I think you sense that already
Good luck hun and don't let anyone push you into surgery that you don't want. Is there another OB there that you can see? Even if you're public if there's someone else you are perfectly within your rights to say that you want nothing to do with this one who is being so unreasonable

[BellyBelly]

moving to labour and birth

[Katstribe]

Tobily thanks I need all the support i can get right now!

As for another OB no he is it! There is one other but he fully backs this one as he is the head one if you know what i mean! I feel like i have no choice but to do what they want, but i know the risks of a third c-sec and me stressing about that whilst on the table is not going to help matters either!!! I jsut wish they could see where i am coming from.
As i said to DH jsut before, after one c-sec he is willing to let patients TRIAL labour but the first sign of trouble bang you in for a c-sec! So what is the difference! That is all i am asking for a chance to try!!! I said to him first sign of any trouble i will ahve a c-sec, and he said yes but by then you could be bleeding internally and it could be too late! Like WTF is that not same risk you runb trialing after one c-sec!!! He is willing to not let me take a chance on a 0.02%risk difference!!! I am sorry i jsut don't get it!

At the same time i want support when i go in there not negative vibes! Otherwise i would jsut way well i don't care this is my decision and thats that. But now knowing the midwives have to back him then they are prob only going to be neg too!
Anyway i have booked a antenatal appoint for next Thurs and i will see what the vibe is that i get from the midwives then! If its jsut a case of they can't SAY what i want to hear, bnut are still going to give me the support i need then i will def go ahead with my decision for a VB!

[blue daisy]

hey katstribe

this sings very loudly of bully tactics

they cannot force you to have a c/s, nor can they refuse to tend to you if this is where you wish to birth (turning up fully dilated and about to birth)

your history indicates no need at all to have a repeat c/s, and in fact you have less risk with a VBAC than with a repeat c/s

I read your post and I feel that perhaps birthing at home may be an option for you, whether it be with a midwife or with a experienced birth attendant (so this would be freebirth)

there is always someone that will help

I am happy to answer any questions on this you have x

[Katstribe]

Blue daisy, i said this to the midwife today, that as i have nothing against me, i don't smoke don't drink and don't do drugs that if i could afford it (this being my problem with 6kids) i would look at this option very seriously!

Btu with a one income 8 person household we jsut don't have the extra money for this to be an option!
I am going stir crazy with this, all i want is support (which i had up until this doc started)! Also being a country area i highly doubt these options are available! oh i don't mean i am doubting you jsut don't think we would ahve anyone in the area!