Yes, you are quite right Natalie and I am so sorry you had such an awful experience. Not all midwives have a woman centred mode of care. As Kelly says hiring your own midwife or engaging in a team midwifery programme where you get to know your midwife is a good way of ensuring you get the care you want.

I had my membranes ruptured without my consent by a doctor during my first labour. Being mislead, having procedures done that you don't want etc happens A LOT in the system.