De-breif of traumatic birth at Hospital today - what should I ask?

[joey123]

Thanks for your replies.

They were really good about it, but still tried to convince me that I would be a nutter to try VBAC next time. TOO BAD!

There was a few little things that I had forgotten about, so it was good to hear those things and they convinced me that I tried as hard as I could and she just wasn't going to come out. However, I think that if I had been allowed to be upright and in the shower, etc, we wouldn't have taken so long and been obstructed grrrrr I didn't bother discussing that with them cause them admitting that, would make them at fault, so I knew they wouldn't.

Anyway, she recons that I went a lot further than they would have liked and everyone did as much as they could to give me the best chance of delivering naturally and she was a big baby (???) for my small frame (???) . Lily was 3.9kg and I am 63cm and 58kg (when not pregnant).

So she had gotten down so far as that she was beginning to twist, but then couldn't straighten up for the last bit to come out.

I had blood in my urine which says obstructed labour and I wasn't progressing well in the times when they turned the syntosin off

My uterus was HYPERstimulated, meaning i would just finish one contraction and then start another, meaning i had no rest and because of my CS they were scared that it would rupture. This is why they turned the syntosin off, but then my contractions were not strong/regular enough by themselves, so they turned it on again, and so on and so on.

So she recons I was lucky that i went that long and i didn't rupture (just shows how much bollocks the story about rupturing really is!) And she (the head of gyno and maternity) was not happy with the dr that I was let to go that long. Helllllooooo, it's my choice, I don't know why she got in trouble!


So next time, I'll have a midwife trained doula and labour at home and stay up right and I will PUSH THAT BABY OUT!

Bring on AF.

[Trillian]

Of course you will push a baby out! See even with the syncto, it was just too much for her to be able to do what a baby is supposed to do to get themselves born. It was nothing to do with your build - much much smaller women have given birth to much much bigger babies and I have no doubt that with the right support that soon we will see you announce a successful VBA2C Any argument they try to mount to support you having another c/s is just rubbish - you got as far as you did with a syncto induction and your uterus held up just fine.

[joey123]

Thanks so much

[Julie Doula]

They gave you syntocinon for a VBAC birth??? Or did i read that wrong?

[joey123]

nope, they gave it to me! they also told me i wouldn't be induced, but at my 40 week appointment, they said that i would be if i make 42 weeks.

[Julie Doula]

I thought it was standard practice not to induce or augment VBAC women because of the higher risk of uterine rupture. Whew, I'm sorry.

So next time, I'll have a midwife trained doula and labour at home and stay up right and I will PUSH THAT BABY OUT!

I like the sound of this plan! Go, you! Homebirth is not an iron-clad guarantee of course, but I reckon your odds are going to be better than what you experienced first and second time around. There is a doula on the Gold Coast, Claire Aslangul, she is pretty spesh, I think she would be able to recommend someone in your area who could help you line up a birth team of your choosing.

By way of encouragement, did you see this doc from the Vic health dept, it's about homebirth VBACs in Victoria but I hope the stats are favourable in your area too. Another place you can check stats for hospitals and private midwives is this new site called My Birth

Oh and check out My Big Ugly VBAC.

"It wasn't pretty. But it was mine."

Love this birth story - she writes it with humour but there's some powerful truths in it too!

GOOD LUCK!!! You CAN do it.