None...in labour.
I was told and/or asked what was going on and why.
I was in an emergency situation, and I was hysterical (literally) but they still asked when they could get an answer, asked DH and told us what needed to happen.

I did however have an unconsented stretch and sweep when I was 40 weeks by an Ob. I asked to have a VE to ascertain how (if at all) dilated and favourable my cervix was as DH had to go back to work (2 weeks away) and we wanted to know if I was close to going into labour.
My rape at 12 was less invasive and painful than the "exam" I received. DH almost punched him but I wouldn't let go of his hand I was in so much pain. They ended up admitting me to the maternity ward for hours afterward as I bled so heavily they were worried about what he had done.
I received no apology from him, but the midwives noted it on my file and I instructed them that if he came anywhere near me again, even if he were the ob on call when I went into labour, I would have him arrested for assault. They took me very seriously.
As luck would have it, when I did front up at the hospital, he was the Ob on call. We told the midwife if he even looked at my chart we would leave, and give birth on the side of the road on the way to King Eddies if necessary, and have no problems telling the media and Health Department why. They called another Ob in (at 8pm) and I never saw the other ob).

I am sorry you feel so violated, there is a difference between a S&S and a VE, and she had no right to perform one when she gained consent for a different procedure. I hope you get your apology, but beyond that you yourself will have to deal with the feelings - the apology won't make them go away and you cannot change what happened, so seek whatever help you need after that to reconcile those feelings (or they will haunt you next pregnancy and labour).
HTH