I was rather naive going into labour with my first , i had no expectations so i just went with what was going on.
With DS no amount of planning would have mattered he was born to quickly and caught every one of guard.
I have had the pleasure of having rather easy labours, my family say i was born to breed, but i have girlfriends who have had terrible times and who have come out of the birth feeling very traumatic. It makes me very grateful for my labours and birthing experiences.
I think it would be like having any bad experience in hospital etc, you are going to feel let down and upset, i dont think it means that these woman love their children any less and in most cases they may have feared for their babies lives, which would leave me with a sickening feeling myself.

Yes we are all grateful with having happy healthy babies, but im guessing it would still hurt to have what you thought would be an enjoyable experience turned into a three ring circus.