Midwives such as those who will be at your next delivery will not be able to perform surgical procedures even if they wanted to, which they will not because your body will do the job beautifully itself. The doula who will be with you will be advocating your needs and desires fully. You will be in your own safe home, where no-one can tell you what you have to do. If you had to go to hospital (which you won't) your doula will not allow anyone, including DH, to sign anything until there has been full consultation. You will have found people you can trust.

Your next baby will be in a good position because they will not have forced you to have an induction or made you lie in one position so they can check bubs is ok, while ironically making him less ok with their checking. You will not have to deal with posterior labour pains, induction methods, the hand of doom, an episiotomy, ventouse, any of it.

And after your next birth, when you have been allowed to enjoy the real power of your body without anyone stepping in with a spanner to disable bits of it, you will see as i already can just from our few exchanges that you are SO strong Ryn. A woman who can bear the birth you had and go on the way you have, can CERTAINLY get the birth she wants next time. When the time comes for you to arrange it you will smile sweetly and insist "i'm having a home birth" to anyone in earshot and that is what will happen. The opposition and horror stories and disapproval aren't easy to live with, but i can tell you right now that they are a hell of a lot easier to bear than what you've had to carry from your first birthing. In going through the birth you had and having to deal with what you have (unhelpful DH, non-sleeping bubs, don't even get me STARTED on your mother) you have shown SO MUCH grit Ryn. I'm positive that when you turn that grit onto the task of arranging a homebirth, well LOOK out medical establishment, Ryn's coming!



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