Dachs I did get the message, I am still navigating myself around this forum.

I find that registrars can be more defensive, dismissive and brutal in their treatment of a pregnant or birthing women than the consultants. You see more registrars at the hosp here than consultants.

Which makes no difference in the long run because most of them are anti-mothers choice. My last preg the consultant didn't argue with my birth plan but said that if I didn't want med intervention to stay away from the hosp till the last min, knowing himself that tertiary hosp are high intervention, lovely English midwife said the same thing to me on the day. Thank god for that advice. Although I did take them literally and almost birthed in the car...Really I was just terrified of going to hosp because of what they may have done to me.

I didn't go, even though I was told that my uterus could rupture etc (VBACer) I could die baby could die, that is how frightened I was.