It is my belief that your mind is your biggest birthing organ. If you're heads not right your Hoo Haa is going to have trouble dancing... It's a fact.

We are burdened of stories of mothers/sisters/aunts of births that went wrong - for some sadistic reason everyone wants to share their horror story. If you are like me and profess to loving labour and birth - you are often seen as freaky!

We need to get away from this - to psychologically separate ourselves from this baggage. Don't underestimate it's load...

When a woman says: "I think I'm going to hve an issue birthing because mum did - you can be sure she will"... Of course not always but often.
Because our minds are powerful powerful powerful organs. They can manifest disease, pain & difficulty birthing to name but a few...

What needs to happen is a reprogramming of the mind. As a Woman your body knows inately - with the DNA imprint of millenia how to birth a baby. Your mind however doesn't.

The same often happens with breastfeeding - mum had trouble so will I... "I come from a long line of women who can't feed"...

You need to recreate your reality. The reality is you have a Womb, A Cervix, A Vagina, Pelvic Muscles - your body is made to birth. What you need is focused intent.

When the I can't happens - question that. Why do I feel that? Could the opposite be true? How would I feel if I didn't have that belief". If the opposite could also be true isn't it wiser to focus on that? The answer is yes.

Don't be hard on yourself Mel - this is something that you have had passed on to you - and many many many women have it. The thing is it doesn't need to be the same. It can be different - I truly believe heart and soul that it can be.

You need good quality care - that is loving, supportive and truly gets where you are coming from.

Many of us gestate longer than 42 weeks - losing your plug is a good sign that your body is preparing for birth. Bless your body for that! It knows Mel how to do it - this time your head has to come into line with your Hoo Haa! I was 2 weeks late with my first, on time with my second, 10 days late with my third and on time with my fourth - there often is no pattern. Believing that your mothers birthing history dictates yours sets you up for failure...

Stick up affirmations around your house - everywhere! Get some books and make them your Bible do not allow any negatives to reach your ears. Friends who goad you & say you can't do it are not being good friends. Granted not everyone has the same ideals around birth - but don't discuss your birth with anyone who will not hold your goals in the same energy that you do. Have a mantra to deflect the comments: "I don't want to discuss birthing this baby - let's talk about something else..."

Sending you loving support...