epidural side effects?

[BellyBelly]

It's very hard to know everything first time around, so many of us here on BB have had crappy first births, myself included... but loads of us have had awesome, empowering second births. The system lets us down, but we're all working hard to change that, there is a rally tomorrow for the maternity review. You did what you knew at the time, there's nothing more you can do but that... you wanted the best for you and the best for baby and that's all that matters. If you are struggling with your birth though, de-brief as much as you can and even look for someone who does professional birth de-briefing. Helps a great deal x

[MantaRay]

Amber, like you I didn't know enough going into my first birth and ended up with a disappointing experience with an epidural and forceps. I did go on to have a fantastic second birth after all I learnt on here. Please don't be hard on yourself. It was not your fault you were let down by the system. ANd you are definitely not alone