Getting lots of prelabour pains and im anxious!!

[stacey83]

Yay ive made it full term!! my first baby boy came too early at 34 weeks!

For the past 5 weeks is the very uncomfortable part of pregnancy i hadnt experienced before!!

My EDD is 8th feb.

Doctors EDD is 18th feb.

I feel like im gonna go any day now, ive been getting so many cramping pains coming and going, and the last couple of days they have been getting worse, and now im getting back pain... so things are close!!

Im getting anxious, i have read so much on active birthing, and i know what i do and what i dont want out of this birth with a birth plan written out.

But yet i feel like this could all be blown out the window, and just be a scared mess out of control because of the pain! (thats what i was like with my first birth, not in control at all because the pain took over me)


Any advice from anyone to give me a bit of confidence? (my support people are very much like- "listen to the midwife and doctor"!!! ggrrrr!

[fourthontheway]

Fire your support people, that's not helpful advice at all (from me either - sorry )

When labour happens you will be ok. Go inside yourself, and know that you can do it, it won't last forever, and soon you will have a wonderful little pinky!

It sounds like you're doing some warm ups already! you could already be dilated a bit, which is good! Keep going, you'll do fine. But tell your support people to support YOU not the medical staff!

[Jas]

My personal experience is second time is a lot different. You aren't kind of shocked I guess is the word by the pain, you know how it is going to feel so you are more relaxed and can go with it a lot more.

It is really great that you have a birth plan, that helps a lot to be well researched and to know in your own mind what it is you want. Have you considered a doula?? I don't mean to be at all disrespectful but your support people are really important and really need to support you and it doesn't sound like their views on labour and birth are supportive of yours, I think this is something really important to look at, whether that means having a qualified or trainee doula there (if you can find one now) and also talking to your support people and getting them to understand your beliefs and at least supporting them if they can't agree with them.

If for example you don't want drugs being in labour and having your support person constantly say, do you want an epidural, I'll go see the midwife, have an epidural, even the most steadfast woman can find this really hard to deal with when they are in the midst of labour.

But I think just practice some relaxation, and this doesn't have to mean mediatation etc etc if this isn't something you are interested in. When I was preg with ds2 I watched this clip on utube, it was a woman singing psalm23 while she was in labour and I listen to this over and over, relaxed myself mental, physically and emotionally and imagined myself being in labour, I also played music, had showers, had oil burning and candles going etc and thought about going into labour and just really relaxed. I got dh to practice talking to me and just rubbing my arms or back etc and then when I was in labour these were all natural, practice things my brain new how to get to easily.

Rather than planning to do these things and then getting into labour and when its all over realising you never thought to do any of them.

Get yourself into a place where you are excited to go into labour and aren't scared of it

I think the support thing is huge though, you need to be able to have people who know your thoughts on everything and can think for you while you're in lbaour so that you can just be

I am wishing you the most wonderful wonderful labour and birth experience you can imagine, I so hope that all of your wishes come true and you have the most amazing experience