i knew i didn't really want visitors at the hospital other than close family(for similar reasons to you with bfing etc)...i had DS at 6pm & we didn't send out the sms to friends till lunchtime next day. my parents came during the afternoon of day two & DP's mum, bro & SIL came that evening. then i asked to be discharged on the morning of day 3 so there was no time for anymore visitors!

i did find it tough at home having visitors - i think in hindsight it may have been easier in hospital because they would have had to leave at a set time but we didn't really encourage any visitors other than family at home for the first week and at some point i asked that everyone stay away for a couple of days just to let us settle in.

my advice would be the same as most others - just let people know that you'll tell them if you're up for visitors when the time comes & see how you feel