Jen - I am in two minds as well hun.

When we have bubs DH and I have discussed having the first 24hrs all to ourselves and he will have no problems letting people know that. My hossy has two sets of visiting hours 2-4 then 6-8 (I think) and we will be requesting that people organise a time with DH to visit us during those hours because I will probably feel aggitated and tired by those who hang around. I am normally a bit of a "needs my own space" kind of person anyway so most people I know, know that about me.

When we're at home (we do this now anyway) we will be locking the doors and drawing the blinds if people come over unannounced we will not answer the door or DH will (he will be on holidays) and tell them to come back at a better time.

GL hun - I am sure once you get there you will find your own way of dealing with things. I think the hardest thing will be disappointing people and telling them no or to leave but I will be thinking of it like parenting practice

Nae x