Towards the end while I was pushing, he was super anxious to meet our baby. He didn't watch DS come out, too grossed out lol, so he stayed next to me and got the same view I did as the midwife put him on my chest. I'm still annoyed I didn't catch a glimpse of DH's reaction to that cause its what I was hanging out for all pregnancy!
I think he shed a couple tears, but mostly just had the biggest grin on his face. Though as I was haemorrhaging he was going between concern for me and gazing into DSs eyes.
Despite a traumatic birthing experience for us, it had its beautiful moments
Hubby bawled when Miss H was born! and proceeded to not stop looking at her for the next few hours! and neglected to let my parents know that I and Miss H were all hunky dory! They were in the room freaking out as I had been gone for a few hours hehe
Then, with Miss Z...well, he kinda walked around to the end of the table to cut her cord, and made the mistake of looking at me on the table, and seeing my intestines (he thinks that's what they were) in a bowl next to my nether regions! He still kinda gets this pale look about him when he remembers
He sided with the midwives and ob for birth #1. His reaction was one of fear, which the bullies fed into.
He will be several miles away for birth #2. He will not be told this until after the event, he will also not be told I am in labour. I have to protect myself - it's not as if my hsuband, midwife or obs will do that for me.
With our first DH said he felt useless, but he did exactly what I want which was just hold my hand (while I nearly broke his, I kid you not!) but when DS1 was born he was awestruck.
With DD he was great, asked me if needed anything, stayed out of my way when I was using the fitball, totally encouraged me when pushing. It was our best birth.
Unfortunately he missed DS2 birth (DS was 7 weeks prem and I was already in hospital) in some ways it was good that he wasnt there because being a prem we didn't know if DS would survive it, so there was a certain amount of fear in the room.
With DS3 he kept getting pushed out of the way because DS heart was decelerating constantly (over 8 decels with in 4hrs)
And I ended up having to face the wall, because that was the only position that DS didn't decel. But when it came time to push, he was there once again letting me squish and bruise his hand, and encouraging me.
DH might have cried- I don't really remember......
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