Big hugs Don't feel bad. And you're not uneducated - there are so many things about both and labour we're apparently supposed to know! We can't know it all.

My DH didn't realise it either. When the midwives thought DD was going into distress (she wasn't, they were just measuring my heart rate instead of hers) they tried to put a monitor on DD. I didn't realise what they were doing, I thought it was just an internal. DH knew but didn't know what it actually was. Thankfully, it didn't work, they couldn't get it on. When the Dr said "I can't get the fetal heart monitor to stay" I figured it out and was ****ed.

I really think they should explain it and get full consent for something like this. When DD was born and had a very obvious scratch on her head DH asked how it would have got there, then he was ****ed too!