I feel bad that she had a very traumatic first birth, with tearing so bad that she ended up with a colostomy bag. She did so well considering, and is an awesome mum.

but


I feel worse that she is pregnant again and is so unsupported by her family. She was told that she should go a Csect or risk another serious injury. She knew this before she got pregnant again. At the time her sister in law told her that she would be failing any other babies for choosing the 'easy option' of elective Csect. She and her husband have since made the decision to have this baby by Csect, but have not told any of their family. They are just going to go in it and have the bubs and 'deal with the concequences from the family' after.

I cannot believe that anyone would be so insensitive to make her feel bad about the way she chooses to birth. I also think it is terrible that she has to keep it secret because she knows how much her SIL will be at her if she knew.

Wishing her an awesome elective Csect. I am sure that she will do a wonderful job.