I'm i just dreaming?

[Antheia]

I don't have much expectation in regards to my birth but what i do want is for it be a really calm experience so that i can look back on it and not think of it as painful.

For instance, i want to be totally relaxed. I don't want to be yelling or screaming or thrashing about. I don't want it to feel painful in a way that is bad. I don't want to have to 'get though it'. I want to enjoy it. I want to say at the end that i can go through that again, not only for the sake of the end result, but for the sake of it being a really joyful, calm experience.

I guess it is in my favour that i'm having a homebirth and a water birth. I am also going to do a calmbirth course. But will this really give me what i want?

I have no fear and i have every confidence that i can do it. But it is easy to think that while pregnant. I don't know how i will think when in labour.

Not really sure what i want out of this post. Not really any advice as such but i suppose more encouragement and knowing that i'm not just living in a dream world.

[Ellibam]

no your not dreaming! it is absolutley possible!
i was in my own world at home i had my own "safe space" in the pool.
i was calm i was at peace i went with my body!

[cindyb]

Absolutely not dreaming! I have managed 2 quite calm and relaxing labours and births and as you said, your body knows what to do and will do it!
I always had the thought of each contraction bringing me closer to meeting my baby!

[Tanya]

Have you thought about hypnobirthing or calmbirthing? Maybe worth a look.

You are going to be fantastic

[Beatrix]

def not dreaming..

did you see the silent birth link i posted in this section? Check it out, it is very possible


Good luck

[Mumma2three]

I had a very short labour last time, and SO intense, but even though it was more painful than the first, I breathed through it and (yes I did say I wanted it to stop) but I never yelled or told DH off and never felt the need to. I thought myself through it, kept telling myself it was temporary and to breath. I didn't do alot of preparing for the labour because I didn't want my heart set on one thing only for it to go the other way, but I took my TENS machine, tennis ball (didn't use it) and just took some time once I was at hospital, to find the most comfortable place for me (which ended up being on a mat with DH sitting behind me and my arms resting on his legs, I faced forwards). I tried a few other positions which didn't work for me.
good luck and I hope you have a wonderful calm birth xo