Twinklestars, I am so sorry for what your family has gone through. We were very nearly in the same situation - my son's cord was wrapped around his neck twice and he was quite tangled. Pushing wasn't going so well for us as my contractions were quite short. My OB was fantastic, though - the only indication I had that anything was going wrong was "if you don't get him out with this contraction, we're giving you an episiotomy". I was really glad, in hindsight, that we'd gone with the scalp clip monitor. It just left him with a tiny little scab on his scalp for about a week. I've seen worse marks on babies after forceps deliveries or ventouse extractions.

BW