Are you all alone MrS? Can someone come and be with you - your doula?
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Are you all alone MrS? Can someone come and be with you - your doula?
DH is here and I don't want to take Kass away from her kids and drive 2 hours when the rate it's going I'm going to be like this for days
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Sorry to hear you are having such a rough time MrsS :(
I guess they mustn't be too worried if they are taking you to the ward. They wouldnt do that if they werent sure.
The Monash is an excellent hospital. They know what they are doing. So, despite your anguish, I am sure everything will be okay.
Take care :)
n2l
PS I am sure your doula wouldnt mind coming to be with you. After all, that's what they are for :)
hun this is crappy
time to see if there is a patient advocate around or even a chaplin. someone who is not a doctor or a nurse but knows the system and how to work around the system!! Have you seen the high risk OB yet?? if not demand he come and see you and tell you what is going on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
start getting DH to write down everything that is said and by whom and what time. that way you have your own records of what is being said!!!
may come in handy!!
get your DH to get the damn well doctor down here now!!!!!!
hugs hun and hang in there
please try and even doze if you can - lack of sleep isnt helping at all
When I go up to the ward they won't let DH come :'( that's not fair he's my husband the father of these babies and they won't let him up to the ward to be with me
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Your dh needs to tell them then, make them listen to you. There is no way you can stay in like this if the nephedepine won't work then they should be doing a c sec
You're kidding right? I am shocked. I know the Monash and that seems to fly in the face of their policy!!!!!
What reason are they giving?
Oh sweetheart, you're having a hard time of it :comfort: its so unfair. Why not give Kass a call and have a chat to her at the very least. She might be able to rev those nurses up a bit and save you the stress of dealing with them.
you poor thing, I don't understand why they would take you to the ward like that. The really need to find a way for you to rest and sleep. Thinking of you.
Feel free to vent here as much as you want.
:hug: Oh hun please ring Kass that is what she is there for babe! She will be able to help you! Hope it all goes well :hug: x
when did you have your steroid shots hun? Might be why they are waiting.
Last one was Wednesday lunchtime. I'm not sure why they won't let DH to the ward yet.
I'm going to lose it if they refuse to let me eat much longer I haven't eaten in over 24 hours and people wonder why im cranky
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That's ridiculous, what reason have they given that you can't have your support person there??
oh hun, big hugs to you :hug: they might not be letting you eat in prep for a csec? when i had A the girl next to me had a failed induction, and was forbidden to eat for 24 hrs while they waited for her csec, something to do with anasetic i think?
as for your Dh, thats bull, it might be outside visitorsd hours, but he should still be able to stay, considering whats happening and how far hes traveled to be by your side.:hug:
When you get to the ward, kick up a stink. You need to eat, 24 hours is a damn long time, and judging from things you would have time for a spinal aneasthetic for your c/section. I also really agree with a pp's suggestion for some sleeping tablets. maybe some shortacting ones like temazapam and some pain relief.
Just wanted to wish you all the best MrsS - sounds like you're having a tough time of it.
I agree with the other gals - call your Doula so she can be your advocate in hospital. All the best, xx
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I agree that they don't want you to eat in case of a c-section.
I was very much in your position with DS4 (but at 25 weeks) and laboured all day, bleeding not food I was exhausted...they only delivered bub because he went into distress and his HR drop. If the bubs are ok they are more reluctant to deliver.
Is your cervix still long?
Maybe ask for some morphine it will help take the edge of, for you to relax and may help to reduce the ctx.
I can't understand why the won't let you have your DH there...that is really not fair :(
:( I'm so sorry :( I agree with what's already been said, sleeping tablets, pain relief and answers!
Found out DH it's because it's outside visiting hours but the nurse worded it like he was allowed up full stop so tomorrow when hours start he'll be here.
Being my first night they don't want to give sleeping tablets. Some higher up registrar is coming around soon
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Start asking questions when that Reg comes around!!! Things like this may be your first night at Monash but not your first in hossie, and you would like some sleep or you will not be able to cope!!!!! Annnnnd you want an action plan, even if that means a plan A,B and C. You need/want to be informed.
Sending you strength, hun. I know how upsetting and scary it can be to have medical staff ignoring your requests and keeping you in the dark. It may not feel like it now but you CAN do this. We're all behind you, and you're not alone. Here's to the safe delivery of your precious boys. xoxo
:hug: I am really surprised and upset they wont let your DH to be there with you if you are in labour? I am worried they have not let you eat and have not told you if you will be having a c section or not. Ask lots of questions hun and get answers this is your body and your babies you must fight as hard as it seems :hug: xxxx
Just signed a consent firm for a c sec although they don't plan in doing one yet only if I dilate more which I keep telling them I was told I wouldn't but they don't listen
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Are they at least doing a CTG on your bubbas to know that they're OK with you contracting so much?
I've been on ctg continuously the last 3 days they are talking about taking it off soon for the night
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Babe you have my number, if for whatever reason Kass cannot make it in time or she is tied up, I am more than happy to come in for a bit of support or whatever you need. Xx
This is awful.
I really hope you get a good night's sleep.
Get PZ in. PZ - go help. If you can. MrsS, it sounds like you really need someone in your corner. Or can you ring the hospital, PZ, and ask what's going on??
Let us know when the reg comes around.
Gosh, good luck hun, it sounds like it's been a really horrible couple of days :hug:
I hope you get some answers soon & your boys are born safe
& well.
Your hubby probably can't stay overnight if you are in a shared room but it doesnt sound like he should be far away. Is there somewhere he can stay nearby? Or does he have the girls?
Thinking of you all
Huge hugs babe you have had a very rough few days :(
I agree you need rest, you need some sleep.. And also agree you need someone to push your word so it's in their face..
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Just checking in too see how things are going..
Hopefully you got some good needed rest xox
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you usually only have to fast for 4-8hr prior to a procedure. not 24hrs.
visiting hours depend on the nurse that is on, coz some will be more lenient depending on why you are there and how you are coping. i would think it would just be easier for them to let him stay with you through this traumatic ordeal, as it gives you someone to talk to and help calm you down a bit. seems like you just have a hard headed nurse on.
oceanprincess - they normally wont divulge much over the phone especially not to someone who isn't immediate family, because of privacy laws.
wishing you all the best mrss and thinking of you.
Morning everyone
Now theyve let me charge my phone I'll be having a big de brief with my doula today.
They gave me pain meds (just panadine forte) and tampazapan and I got to sleep!! I feel so much better after 3 days of no sleep those 5 hours were amazing!
Contractions went down to one in 10-15 when I was sleeping the nurse just said and are still at one in 10 so that's good.
Sorry for you all listening to me ramble especially yesterday I was so exhausted and over emotional.
Still in the birthing room think I said that DH is waiting outside he arrives an hour ago and they won't let him in yet :(
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mrss glad you finally got some sleep, its amazing what a big difference that can make. and good news re: contractions slowing down. dont worry about your emotional release, i probably would have been worse. you are doing an amazing job, you are already showing your boys what a good mother you are. we are all here for you no matter what. all the best xo
They wont let your HUSBAND in? WTF?
I'm disgusted at how you and your family are being treated. No words really. Am thinking of you hon.
Yeah it's dumb so he's gone back to his room just spoke to him on the phone and hes a mess, he gets very worked up not angrily but he was crying and vomiting on the phone because he's so I don't know overwhelmed?!
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Why isn't he allowed in. It's not like he lives around the corner
Awww your poor husband. Could you maybe speak to the CN or NUM of the ward and let them know that your will be putting in a complaint of how you and DH are being treated it is not fair that he isn't allowed to stay with you. Your both going through such a scary thing, it is best for both of your psychological well being that he can stay with you. I hope they listen babe. Xoxoxox
Love MN ;-)
Because I need "rest" I'd only just woke up when he first got here but still what would it matter if I was asleep he wouldn't have woken me he just wanted to sit with me like they have all night
Ah well hopefully things will be better on the ward
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