Natural birth... help!!!

[Beautitude]

Today i finally got confirmation that i had been accepted into the birth centre at my local hospital. I would really love to have a natural birth with no drugs but to be honest i am absolutely scared about how i can do this. I have no pain threshold and im not exactly fit so please tell me how do i do it? How do i get over the fear? What do i read, what do i do? HELP!

[Kazbah]

Not sure if you've heard of them, but the TENS machines are non-drug and they distract you from any pain. I used one with Pip and it rocked. The best thing about natural birth, without any induction etc, is that the contractions start small and then work their way up in intensity - unlike inductions, when it's suddenly *wham* at huge nasty ones. So it's your body doing natural pain relief. Have a look at hypnobirthing and breathing techniques, as it really does work.

yay on birth centre!!!!!

[BrightSparkles]

I spent ages preparing myself mentally telling myself that I was strong enough to do this, that my body is made to give birth etc. I'm someone who passes out if I slam my finger in the door so can totally relate to the pain threshold. I spent my labour in the bath and found a crack in a tile and that is what I focused on the WHOLE time. I didn't take my eyes off it. DH, mum and MW kept saying how fixated I was and it didn't matter that they were talking to me, that crack in the tile gave me something physical to focus on during the contractions and gave me a chance to tell myself how well I was doing and how much I wanted this.
I didn't do any read TBH, just had a sheer determination that I was going to do this and prove myself and everyone wrong.
HTH. GL hun and you get the birth that you want.

[Toomanytoomany]

Today i finally got confirmation that i had been accepted into the birth centre at my local hospital. I would really love to have a natural birth with no drugs but to be honest i am absolutely scared about how i can do this. I have no pain threshold and im not exactly fit so please tell me how do i do it? How do i get over the fear? What do i read, what do i do? HELP!

I'm sure that there'll be others along with great advice, but I just wantd to let you know that I cope really, really well with natural childbirth, and I am a complete wuss when it comes to pain. When it comes to labour, it's just... well, different.

[MantaRay]

Congratulations hun. That is great news.

The first step is to stop being scared about the pain being too much. It isn't too much. It is pain, sure, but it is manageable and you can cope. I think for most of us, the fear of the pain is actually worse than the pain itself. Knowing that each contraction comes and goes can help. If you can focus through one, you can focus through the next. The crack on the bath is a great anecdote. For me it was the breathing. Concentrating on breathing in until the peak, and then out, kept me focused.

I highly recommend that you read New Active Birth by Janet Balaskas. This helped me to have a great birth second time around. It talks about how keeping active during labour (as opposed to lying on your back which is the absolute worst thing you can do - it slows things down and also contractions hurt way more!!) really helps the process, and also about positions and breathing to speed labour up, and help you get through it.

I really hope you have the drug-free birth you are hoping for. I can tell you from my experience of having one of each, that you will feel a million times better after a natural birth than if you have drugs. And you will recover much more quickly. It is so worth it to resist the fear, and the temptation of pain relief. Best of luck hun.

[Junglemum]

Pretty sure there is a list of books round here that will help you, check on the main page.

You could look at doing a calm birth course or something similar. I did a great course with Rhea Dempsy called 'Transforming pain in labour' But that was in Melbourne. .... Perhaps there is something similar in SA?

A couple of great books i read were.... oh crap. What were they??? hmmmmmmm................ Janet Balaskas, "New active birth" is one i read. Will come back if i remember the others! (ETA- if i only i had of refreshed i wouldn't have had to think so hard. )

Here, found this for you.... Birth - BellyBelly Pty Ltd

But i really think the most important thing is being comfortable in your surrounds and confident in your body's ability to birth your baby. Read all you can until you get to that point. Of course there is always a few nerves and a little fear of the unknown, but that is only natural too.

[Beautitude]

Thanks everyone for your replies and advice. I guess because ds is only 18 months old the memories of what i went through with him is still very fresh. I remember very clearly after i had a shot of pethidine when i was in labour with him i felt like i was sort of locked in my own mind iykwim. I couldn't speak and express myself however my body was in so much pain and my brain was screaming but i couldn't express myself in words. I saw the epidural as my lifeline as after i had that i finally felt normal and human again. It was one of the scariest moments of my life. I hope my next labour is very different and i guess with an induced labour being hooked up to machines i really had no way of being as active as i needed to be. I think that is where most of my fear comes from and my way of breaking through that barrier is to have as much information up my sleeve as i possibly can have.

[Persephone1]

I haven't done it yet, so can't give qualified advice until I have but my strategies in preparing for it have been:

Hiring a Doula (IMO, the most important thing)
Completing an independent birth class (in my case it was Rhea Dempsey's Embracing the Intensity class, also in Melbourne)
Reading widely, including Juju Sundin's Birth Skills, and Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering - both of which I would recommend
Hiring a TENS Machine
Preparing a labour "toolkit" with heat bags, massage oils, stress balls, etc


Hope that helps. Also, remind yourself that you CAN do it, because plenty of people doubt the birth process and will offer "advice" about accepting the drugs and suggest that you can't do it drug-free. This is bollocks (again, I haven't done it yet, but I am confident that labour and birth can happen without the drugs because, well, plenty of women have done it before). My Mum did it 4 times. And what's more, the question should not be "why would you do it without drugs?" It should be "Why would you take the drugs?" because those drugs and interventions come with their own set of consequences for you and baby that everyone should consider before they accept them during labour and birth.

GL!

[meow]

I knew I wanted a natural birth, mainly because I had looked into the drug options and none of them appealed to me at ALL.

I'm a sook with pain though and I remember being sooky/crying after having a crampy arm for a couple of hours during pregnancy, caving in to panadol and wondering how on earth I would get through a natural labour But labour pain is different. It's not like a crampy arm where you're not sure why it's hurting, you know it's not normal and you don't know if/when it will end. Labour feels natural, painful sure, but natural. You know why it is happening and you know it will end (eventually ).

Things that helped me were:
Reading about the drugs and their side effects- this helped so that even when I couldn't think in labour I still knew in my heart I didn't want any of them so they just weren't an option.
Reading birth stories and the articles on bellybelly- this helped me feel prepared for what can come up & what to expect so that when it was happening it wasn't all a huge unknown. Though I still remember saying to my H "I had no idea!"
Reading birth books- I never settled on much that helped me 'deal with the pain'. I read Birth Skills a bit but didn't use any of what I read. I read Birthing from Within which you may like as it deals with fear of birth, but I personally wasn't scared so I didn't get anything out of it. I watched/read The Pink Kit and I really liked that for the understanding it gave me so I felt knowledgeable about what was happening.

I tried a TENS a machine and hated it so while I still recommend them based on other people loving them I wouldn't pin all your hopes on it. I moved around a lot and tried different things. Rocking/swaying, squatting and being in the shower were the best things for me. Oh, and I expected labour to take at LEAST 24 hours and I think that helped as I just tried to get into the zone and get on with it and not wish it would end soon as I didn't expect it to IYKWIM.

[*Beema*]

TBH when it all started I wasn't thinking about it, it was all happening so quick.

I agree that it is a different pain, there is a huge reward at the end of if and one thing you can do is focus on that and once each contraction is over, yes I have done that one and I don't need to do it again, one step closer..

The shower and bath are great natural forms of pain relief, I wanted to try the shower but didn't have the time, but I think it would heave really helped with the back pain (posterior bubs).

Maybe look into Calm Birth, as I think there will be some really valuable things in there that help you

Take care, and once it is over you won't remember the pain, it is an amazing thing that out bodies do, you can't emulate the pain so it will become a memory as such xxoo