Definitely a natural tear. I haven't had an episiotomy, but I had a 2nd degree natural tear with Amelia. After maybe two or three days I could hardly feel it! Maybe they just did a really good job with the stitches, but I believe it would've healed slower if it was a deliberate cut. I've also heard that cutting an episiotomy can lead to a longer, worse tear if they're not careful with their timing.
I wrote I'd rather tear except for 2 scenarios:
1) if I am tearing forward into the uretha
2) if a balloon type tear starts in the perineum and explodes out. I hadnt heard of this, but my midwife mentioned it.
Otherwise, I wouldn't want an epi. I'd rather be supported to borth in a way to minimise the risk of tearing (as much as that can be done).
If you want to read more about it - try Henci Goer's the Thinking woman's guide to a better birth.
When you tear, the muscle underneath is a thin layer from the pressure of bub's head, so there is a fair bit of skin damage but little muscle damage. With an epi they often cut through more than just the stretched skin and into the underlying muscle etc.
I had a 3rd degree tear (which at the time I didn't want an epi) but it took 8mths and more surgery to fix it. I'll be opting for an epi this time.... can't be any worse for me surely!
I wrote in my birth plan that I'd rather tear then have an episiotomy. I also made sure I looked into what positions are best to minimize tearing. I ended up birthing on my knees leaning against the back of the bed and only had a tiny tear that didn't require stitches. Everything I came across during my research suggested a natural tear heals much better then an episiotomy
I had an episiotomy and had to go back for surgery on the scare tissue 14mth later. From everything I've heard tearing is better for healing and pain unless it's going to damage your urethra or rectum.
i had an epi with a forceps delivery (and ALOT of stitches) & whilst it isn't what i would have chosen (from reading, i would have preferred to tear naturally), i had one dose of panadol & that's the only pain relief i had. i healed quickly & have had no discomfort or pain since.
not sure whether it's luck, a good ob or that i heal quickly or a combination of all 3! would still prefer to tear naturally but feel comfortable that i am able to heal from an epi if needed.
I had an epi and had no pain or healing issues at all. It didn't bother me even the day I gave birth, and not even a month later I couldn't even tell I'd been cut. They done an awesome job stitching it.
Honestly, I think it depends on the circumstances at the time. I had a all but 4th degree and it took months to heal but I also wouldnt have had an episiotomy either. I was of the impression you can have an episiotomy and then still tear in another direction. Think I'd prefer just the one tear than a cut AND a tear
Thanks, I scar soo badly which is another reason why I'm concerned. My c/s doesn't look any different than it did a few weeks after I hate it. It's still red. My appendix scar took 5 years to start to fade so I'm not holding my breath for my c/s scar.
I'm just worried that if they cut me down there that I won't heal and things afterwards won't be the same.
i had internal tears with first baby.. i found it hurt alot but it didnt last as long until it started to feel better.
i had an episiotomy with my second baby and i found that it didnt hurt as badly but that the pain lasted for a lot longer.
also, i had further complications from the episiotomy leading to painful intercourse and had to have it re-done when my little one was 2 1/2 years old! eeeeep!!
so i would prefer a tear.. having said that though when you are in labour and the situation arises you do what your carers think is best and what you think is best and really what happens happens. there is no point stressing about what might happen when you may have no control over it in the first place. :-)
Natural all the way! Epis cut through the muscle and take longer to heal as well as being quite painful and uncomfortable. I had an epi with my first and it was awful! I couldn't even get in the car without it hurting. But with the two tears that I had I hardly even knew they were there!
I tore during my first vbac and didn't feel a thing. It was really painful after and took ages to heal. My last vbac I had an epi which was more painful than labour itself but healed so much quicker and less painful after!
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