Wish I could have a list like the above!
I will have an elective caesar.
I will breastfeed my baby in recovery.
I will love skin to skin contact with my baby as soon as s/he is born.
I will ask them to do the apgars on my chest if baby is fine!


I will not hand my baby over to be weighed/measured, they can come to me.
I will not labour or achieve a vaginal birth. I have tried, and tried and I can't go there again. I farewell this opportunity and forgive myself for feeling sub-maternal. I can get them, I can gestate them, I can feed them, I can mother them, I just can't push them out. Please don't debate this with me, I am at peace.