I'm a bit worried about DH. Being a 3rd time dad i thought by now he'd know what to do in terms of supporting me in labour etc. But he says he's scared and that he doesn't know what to do.

While he was not a bad support person the other times, this time i would like a little more touch and cuddles as that is what i need when in labour, to be held. But he just says he's scared he'll get it wrong. Hopfully having our doula there will help him but i'm still worried about him.

I want him to feel involved and right now i know he doesn't. Yesterday we met the midwives for our homebirth and he didn't stay in the room long. He said he felt very uncomfortable and like he was not meant to be there because i'm the pregnant one and he just felt out of place. I have told him well it's is OUR pregnancy and our baby and he knows that but i dunno. He is a very shy person until he has met someone quite a few times but i'm only meeting the midwives 2 more times before the birth.

I just don't what to do to get him to feel more involved. I mean he talks to my belly and what not and i have made him pick our girls name cause i have picked both DD's and DS's names and he is fine with that. But what else can i do? I don't think he has a problem with bonding with bub, just the whole supporting me in labour and feeling like he is suppose to be there before anyone else. I think he feels like he's in the background and is the last person who should be there, even though i know he wants to be there.