Ok so had another appt today and it was ment to be with the doc.It was booked in for the doc. So go in...its not with the doc but with a registrar. ok no worries im cool with that i guess.

Anyway she goes thru normal stuff not very helpful at all.I had a scan done on fri and i had to ask her what the results are and all i got was yep thats fine.
She checks bubs heart doesnt tell me what it is at all.

Then i say i do have some things i want to go over as the last doc missed it due to needing to send us to the ward for monitoring ect.Ok so i give her my birth plan thing. I do say im aware that these things cant be planned per say but i have got on there what is NOT to be done and what im ok with ect.

so the very first part of it i have written :

"Forceps are NOT to be used or even discussed unless Ventouse has been tried and failed several times and i Have been fully explained the situation and given express consent or elected to have a c/s instead. BUT i am aware however that the situation may arise where they are necessary, in which case the most senior and experianced Ob on shift is to use them and NO students or Registrars are to attempt forcept delivery."

Very clear i thought......apparently not this woman then tells me that i need to be aware and prepared that it may happen.AND that they dont have a doc or Ob on shift so if it is needed it will be a registrar who use's them.And for me to bear that in mind. UM HELL NO im sorry but should a hospital have a doc or at least an Ob on shift at all times???

So thats strike one. Next thing on my list is : NO internals unless medically needed for the saftey of myself or bubs.
I explain to her i am aware one is routinly done upon admission and im ok with that BUT other than that i do not want one unless 100% needed.
She then tells me that it is routin to do them during the whole labor process to check how i am progressing ect so i need to be aware that that to will happen.............

GRRR getting mad now that is strike 2

the 3rd thing on my list is : NO males are allowed in the room.

to which she the tells me that most of their consultants are male so there is no way out of that. NOT HAPPY!!!! first of there were no males with my last two at the same hosp so why MUST i now just accept there will be.The last one i had was that nothing was to be done to myself or bubs without Imformed consent from myself first. To which she said that that is how it should be.....(insert her pause) BUT sometime when you have been doing the job for so long these things do get forgotten in the heat of the moment,but we do try to be sure to explain all things to you.

WOW all 4 of the things i have down she has just told me they can not or will not follow so how do i go there to have my baby who may i add is due soon and feel safe to know my needs/wants will be respected??

Can anyone tell me what the diff is between a Ob/doc and a registrar??

And does anyone know if it is common for a hosp not to have at least one OB on shift at all times??

Am i just being silly or am i right to be worried now