Thanks kate.no i havent seen it yet im going to go find it now and have a read.

Yep DH and i have had many chats and he is on board fully we wnet over things so much so we were both happy and understood what we were asking so thats nice to know he will back me up.

Thats a good suggestion on the first VE and i think i will need to think about it and consider it too.Thankyou. A doula is out DH is comfy with it and i respect that and he made a huge effort to know what my wants are and he respects them and agree's so im happy and now feel safe he will make sure its respected