:-( That is just awful and makes me so sad. I haven't been subjected to those sorts of comments or care from my healthcare providers & I am glad I haven't. I hope things do change with women becoming more informed from sites like these and standing up for their rights.
There was a lady in our local paper that was refused care at the local public hospital b/c she was obese - it is their policy and she had to go to another public hospital about 20/25 mins away 'in case' there were issues. There can be issues with any birth regardless of your size & weight!

Interesting about the wound healing - I know they were diligent on checking mine regularly and ensuring I was drying it properly b/c of my overhang (I would gently blow dry it after my shower with the hair dyer!) and I wore a sanitary pad in my knickers so the wound didn't rub.... I wonder now if the midwives suggested that to everyone that had a c-sect of just me (or others) who is overweight??!!