When I had DD1 I was insistant that I only wanted DH in with me while I was in labour. My mum & MIL came up after I'd been in labour for 10 hours & were going to sit in the waiting room.
They asked someone how long they thought I'd have & they said a while. So Mum & MIL offered to come in just while DH goes out for a smoke - he did really well going so long! He only had the one in 18 hours!
Any way I told the midwife that I wanted them out as soon as DH came back.
But as soon as they came in I changed my mind. Mum had gone through labour 3 times & MIL 6 times. They knew what to do & how to help.
They knew what the MW & OB were talking about.
If MIL wasn't in there I could've been taken up for a c/s. They were talking about it coz it was taking so long & she suggested they give me a bit more time. I'm glad she did.
We were both young & didn't go to any pre natal classes though. Things might be completely different for you.
I wish my mum was there for both the other 2, but she couldn't be.
You don't have to, but maybe your mum or someone to help you through the labour & make it clear that as soon as baby comes out she is to go & give you & your partner time.
I don't know you, but I don't think I could've done it with out my mum.
Its all well and good if you get along with your mum - but my mum usually just makes me angry and frustrated - not exactly the type of mood I want to be in at that time.
Both her and my MIL are illogical and frustrating and I am likely to bite their heads off if they start to annoy me - not exactly something I want to do at that time.
You do make a good point for people who are close to their mum's though.
I'm going into cold sweats imagining my mother there! Just not a good idea. Yeah, she's done it before, she can tell me everything I'm doing wrong, just like she has done all my life. Great one. I didn't even want DH there let alone some woman I don't even like, just happen to be related to.
As for "only the people at the conception" argument - do you have midwives/obs there? What about IVF babies, should the parents not be present and the scientists there instead? (Sorry, this is a bit of a thread hijack, but just curious.)
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