It's so hard to know if there will be tearing, and if so- to what degree.... until it happens. Or doesn't.

I'm having a VBAC for this baby, and am paranoid about tearing, definitely!

The first thing that sprung to mind when I saw the title of the thread is that for me, IMO, c/s is a garaunteed permanent injury. The degree to which you're injured depends on a lot of variables. For me, I have little to no sensation around the scar. When I do have sensation, it's almost always pain and discomfort. Still. 2 years on. Let's not even get into the whole emotional side of my scarring.

It's a difficult choice. I would suggest maybe seeking a second opinion and going from there. And I think so long as her choice is based on fact, and she can be sure of this and comfortable with her decision - then everything will be just fine.