please help-Dilemma-how long did your DH stay at hospital after birth

[Laranna]

No, you're not being unreasonable! For us, DS was born at 4:42am and DH stayed the whole week with us. He slept at the hospital (I had a double bed). DS was born on a Sunday, so DH was with us the whole of Sunday and Monday, he went back to work on Tuesday but came "home" to the hospital after work and stayed overnights until I left hospital on the Saturday. Then he took his leave from work when we were all back at home.

[suse]

Your DH says that it's important not to let hobbies / 'me' time slide just because of the bub - umm, make sure he tells the baby that, OK, because I suspect that bubs will have an entirely different perspective on the matter LOL.

I suspect that your DH has no real concept as to how much life changes and the reality of it is going to be a bit of a shock to him. Especially if he thinks that going to play poker on the night that your baby is born is in context to the magnitude of the event. In twenty years time when he thinks back to the birth of his first child, what does he want to remember?

[Lolli]

i thinks someones dh's needs a good kick up the pants (and just this once, it's not mine! ) I'd be ****ed too. This is his child being born, ffs...

My hospital kicked dh out an hour after bubs was born, because it was the middle of the night and not visiting hours. i was ropeable. So it might be a moot point if your hossy is as horrible as mine was. It is nice to have your partner ther as long as possible- for the company, the debrief, someone to complain to who has to listen, and to run to the vending machine when you feel the need for chocolate

[Gigi]

Your DH says that it's important not to let hobbies / 'me' time slide just because of the bub - umm, make sure he tells the baby that, OK, because I suspect that bubs will have an entirely different perspective on the matter LOL.

I suspect that your DH has no real concept as to how much life changes and the reality of it is going to be a bit of a shock to him. Especially if he thinks that going to play poker on the night that your baby is born is in context to the magnitude of the event. In twenty years time when he thinks back to the birth of his first child, what does he want to remember?

beautifully put Suse

:yeah that:

i remember feeling so sad, that our first night with a nb, her daddy coudln't stay (nowhere to sleep) and i wanted us all to be together (had planned a homebirth that ended up transferred to hospital) - so it was a very emotional time - traumatic labour where stuff when horribly wrong PLUS being alone with our new baby (my first) in strange environment where nothing was familiar, noisy and full of strangers barging in and out of the room at all hours. I didn't need her father to be there to deal with the baby, i just wanted us to be together (considering baby arrived not breathing, i was still in shock she was actually alive).

even if everything had gone like clockwork, i STILL would have wanted us all to be together.

NOTHING is the same once the baby arrives. Perspective kicks in.