I've hired an awesome doula in hope she will help me achieve my VBA2C .

I've just received an email from her which has lots (I mean lots as in 10 pages, single line spacing) of options from sights, smells, photos, sounds, pain relief, before, during and post birth - everything and OMG - there are soooo many options .

Yup, this is baby number 3 for me - yet I've never been in labour nor formed a birth plan before - so this is a first for me.

My question - how did you know what to put in your birth plan first time around? How will I know what I want to smell, listen to, how I would like the lights etc in a situation I've never been in before. I have no doubt my doula will help me, and she has said so, but I'm just really curious how you all did it??