I also had shoulder dystocia with my recent birth, but I don't believe it was severe. My bub did not have big shoulders and was 7 pound 13, born a week and a half early. If I were to fall pregnant again (not planning on it after the trauma of the last birth) and it was recommended that I have a c section I would jump at it.

I think that you just need to go with whatever offers the best outcome for mum and bubs. It's easy for me to say this though when I'm not actually facing it, I could feel differently if I was.