I dont know whether its an option or not, but can she not be induced?
I was 11 days over and the dr said my cervix was not favourable at all. It was long and tightly closed. The middy gave me the gel and my baby was born a few hours later. Maybe a little kickstart is all that she will need and if worse comes to worse and things go horribly wrong then she can have a csec.
He should at least give her a chance.
Oh and for what its worth, i bet anyone would tense up and have a tight vagina if they had a hand poking around. It was probably cold too ...