Thanks everyone, thats pretty much what I thought. It's all up to our own bodies if they are ready or not.
Junglemum - I thought about Acupuncture but no one in my town does it :-( I am going for a massage tomorrow, my massage lady says she has some ideas like certain oils and pressure points etc...
And as much as im not in the mood at the moment i think i am going to have to try the lots of sex method as well lol... poor hubby the things he has to do ;-p