Thanks Trillian, that is really nice to know. Not nice to know about your three tears and three scars (tho I did smile at that ) but nice to know I won't necessarily tear along the scar!

I think at my next appt (which will be with the MW, now that the Dr has cleared me as low risk and I can continue with the family birth centre) I will talk about my concerns and about how I'd like active management of the peri and that I'd also like to explore using the labour pool.