For those that went OVERDUE with their FIRST baby.....

[sunshine_sieben]

One thing I've read and been told about by midwives is that babies often arrive once the mother has come to a kind of 'peace' about things.

I really believe that this is true in many cases. I had so much on my plate the months before DD was born. We had planned to build an extension onto our home. The extra room was supposed to be the office while what was already the office was then to be the baby's room. Well, the builders were slack and all they did was dig a hole in the garden. We were constantly arguing with them until they finally said they'd start on DD's due date. WTF It was meant to be finished long before then? No way was I having builders in the house with a new baby. On the Friday DH and I went to see a lawyer about getting out of the contract and getting our deposit back. So that issue was dealt with.
On the Sunday was a family member's 60th birthday. I was asked last minute to create a multimedia presentation slideshow with millions of photos. All had to be scanned first. It was sooooo much work. I finished it on Sunday morning at 1am (only hours before the birthday party). It was such a relief to have finished that adn a huge weight off my shoulder. 3 hours later, I woke up for a pee and had bloody show. Then I felt the first contraction. DD was born 12 hours after that.
I really do think that having all those issues dealt with helped get things started. And as a bonus, I didn't have to go to the birthday party (really wasn't looking forward to it)

Hope things will happen for you soon, hun!
Saša

[Lulu]

OMG! I second, third and fourth that!

No2 - I refused to have bubs until I had THE perfect labour outfit. NO crappy ole t-shirt for me, I wanted GLAM. After a big day of shopping and thrilled to have the perfect frock I went into labour that very night.

No3 - I refused to have this one until I had a new couch. Just REFUSED. I wasn't having visitors coming to see the baby and sitting on my ratty old number. I signed off on a fabulous couch, had my final team meeting and wrapped everything up for mat leave......and went into labour 10 minutes later. And 3 weeks early so baby and I were home before the bloody couch was delivered anyway.

Think girl, think - what may be stopping you???

[sangie]

Ren I can't sympathise with bub being late but I can about the PUPPS. I had it for 2 weeks before DD came and it was awful. I spent heaps of time in the bath and kept slathering on the moisturiser. The good news is that as soon as I went into labour the itching stopped and the rash was completely gone within a couple of weeks.

Best of luck hun. Remember that every day is getting closer to the one when you will meet your baby - he/she can't stay in there forever!

[Shanti]

Sangie - thanks hun the itching is terrible huh!!! No relief except a cool shower helps.... and aloe vera plant rubbed on every hour!! Creams etc don't help me. I'm dealing with it better now anyway than i was 2 days ago!

Yes girls I agree..... when you say "babies arrive when you feel at peace with it all etc" I really do believe that to be true from what i've read and heard from others also.

As for anything keeping me back? I have no idea what could be I am one of the most organised people you can imagine (possibly too organised ) and the nursery has been completed for ages, all clothes/MCNs washed and put away, everything is ready to go.... I think bub is just not ready yet!! Likes to keep us waiting

I do feel today though, and possibly this thread helped, that I've come to a sort of peace with being overdue and I've ACCEPTED it now. I really have. I mean, each day i wake up and think "oh damn I'm still here!" but it's not as bad now..... I've accepted it. Bub will come when ready.

I am a naturally very "like to be in control" sort of person, highly organised person so that probably doesn't help with being overdue...... I'm a Gemini I love to know when things are going to happen too.... so it's hard when I feel I can't control this lol and I know labour will be the same too....but I'm prepared for that part

[AnnaBelle]

Hi Renstar!
If you are still at home and not in hospital ...my story goes ..

Due 26th Nov - saw my OB 27th (1 day over EDD) and without asking me booked me in for the following Wed for an induction -7 days over it would have been - anyway of course nothing happened in that 7 days despite being 2cm dialated at my OB appointment 1 day over!!!
Anyway went to the hospital a week overdue ready for the induction- got cold feet -just didnt feel ready and wanted to hopefully let my body go into labour itself and left the hospital and went home - OB rebooked me for 8th Dec and I was sooo sure I would go into labour myself by then!!!and I didnt go into labour grrrrrrr!!! 12days over EDD!!
In short (not done my birth story yet)
12 days over EDD
Gel at about 7am - nothing much happened walked around etc.. few pains here and there -
Reapplied more Gel at 3pm as it was thought that i wasnt ready for waters to be broken...
9pm that night - OB broke my waters (not much came out and a little bit of meconium - which had them concerned that a whole heap more was behind bub's head)
That was probably the worst bit for me having the waters broken as it made me throw up afterwards - I think OB also moved bubs around a bit as he was a bit posterior??
Got an epidural sometime around 10pm or 10.30pm ( i thought just get the epiduarl cause it will help and it really did - i didnt even know when contractions were happening and then also if i needed a c/s all they needed to do was top me up - you see i must have known what was going to happen!!)
6cm dialated by 1am/ 1.30am
However - Bubs heartbeat dropping and not rising well after contractions
OB called back in and c/section done at 2 am.

If you like Renstar you can look up my previous posts and you may see a similar post I put out there just before my due date asking about induction and you will see all the wonderful advice given to me -hope it helps you.

In summary I( felt I gave it my best shot - Ithought 6cm was a great effort in just 4 hours but it just didnt go our way - OB said bub was only 3/5ths engaged ???
I know bub was dfinately over done cause my scans said EDD was 20th Nov and my LMP date was 26th and he was born 9th Dec - he was covered in meconium and had peeling skin everywhere.

I see my OB next week so it will be interesting to hear what will be said.

Thinking of you hun.
Anna