Is it too much to ask that my birth plan isnt laughed at by the midwife?

Is it too much to ask that people understand that birth isnt just about having a baby at the end of it?

Is it too much to ask that i might be listened too and talked to with some respect.

Is it too much to ask that i might actually have a labour and birth that i can look back on with a smile on my face rather than a tear in my eye.

I know that the most important thing is to have a presious and healthy baby in my arms at the end of it but i just want DH to understand that going into hospital doesnt mean that i have to have every needle and monitor they can find stuck in/on me. and that the midwives/docs ''just being precausious or preparing for the worst'' isnt what labour is about and that it is possible to give birth in a hospital and still be respected and listened to.

I had quite a bad bleed after DD and had to go to theatre so i understand his need and desire to have this baby in hospital but i just feel that all my rights are automatically taken away the second i walk through those doors....i know i will never have a homebirth and thats not what this is about. i wish i had another support person to come with us that 'got' child birth from my point of view.