Is it too much to ask.... (vent,sorry)

[beckoes]

Is it too much to ask that my birth plan isnt laughed at by the midwife?

Is it too much to ask that people understand that birth isnt just about having a baby at the end of it?

Is it too much to ask that i might be listened too and talked to with some respect.

Is it too much to ask that i might actually have a labour and birth that i can look back on with a smile on my face rather than a tear in my eye.

I know that the most important thing is to have a presious and healthy baby in my arms at the end of it but i just want DH to understand that going into hospital doesnt mean that i have to have every needle and monitor they can find stuck in/on me. and that the midwives/docs ''just being precausious or preparing for the worst'' isnt what labour is about and that it is possible to give birth in a hospital and still be respected and listened to.

I had quite a bad bleed after DD and had to go to theatre so i understand his need and desire to have this baby in hospital but i just feel that all my rights are automatically taken away the second i walk through those doors....i know i will never have a homebirth and thats not what this is about. i wish i had another support person to come with us that 'got' child birth from my point of view.

[Arimeh]

Can you get a Doula? Are you going to Nambour General?

[Sterla]

No, none of that is too much to ask. I second what Mel said - maybe think about getting a doula.

[Jewel]

Definately not to much to ask. Big hugs.

[HotI]

Nup, not too much to ask. All things that should just happen, you shouldn't have to ask for them.

[CinderToriella]

Can you get a Doula? I want one for any other babies i have, i explained to DF what they were and now that he understands he is al for one, he says it will allow him more time to just be with me instead of worrying about if they are doing what i want/dont want etc, coz a doula will be wit us

Nothing u said is to much to ask at all hun xx

[Bumperstump Cummerbund]

Can you get your DH to read some articles on traumatic birth and Birth Rape? I mentioned a few months back to my Dad about wanting a homebirth, and at first he laughed at me and said I should just give birth in a drain Once I had explained to him about just SOME of the things 'professionals' do to birthing women, he was firmly in my corner. Maybe it would work for your husband as well?

Definitely agree with a doula as well - or even a close girlfriend that you know will support your choices. Isn't it ludicrous that women hafta bring backup to ensure they're not violated?!