My situation is a bit unusual because I had SPD. I had a VB first time around because everyone told me that SPD did not mean I would need a caesar. Worst thing I ever did. An 18-month recovery and for the first six months I was basically housebound. Also meant I delayed having no. 2.

Opted for a caesar the second time around, despite many well-meaning people on here again telling me that I needn't have one. THE best thing I ever did. I was better after six days than I was after six months after the VB and immediately contemplated no. 3, the recovery was that good.

I agree that some people are misinformed and seem to think that a caesar is an easier option but I also think that some people put a VB on a pedestal that is not always useful for people like me who face a unique set of circumstances that make it totally advisable.
^^ That's the exact reason you can't make blanket statements. It's all about the individual.
Unfortunately there is no real way of knowing how any labour or birth will go. I know of one woman whose relative had an experience so bad, she chose a CS thinking to avoid the same thing happening. I know someone who had a CS, loved it, had another & the recovery was horrific. She said if she'd known the second time was going to be like that, she would have considered a VBAC.
My own VBAC was born originally, from the fact that I found my own CS so horrible, and I had had a previous VB which was quick & easy.

There are so many different stories, so many different scenarios, the only thing I wish is that women would be informed. When I was 16 & pregnant with my first I was terrified of giving birth & would happily have accpeted a CS, had one been offered

Traveller that was beautifully said.