Vocalising

[jellybean88]

What's your view on yelling and what not in labour, I was screaming during transition and before being allowed to push with ds eben though I didn't feel I was in pain and kept being told to suck on my gas and stop screaming but I wasn't in control of it I was screaming automatically and then it went to pushy yelling when I started pushing I was silent it was all very calm.

Also anyone given birth on gold coast recommend what they chose I'm thinking ahead for next one whether to keep my private health cover I was in hospital 6 days after ds with feeding issues and bad pnd and terrible 2 nd degree years and would like the longer stay again or at last have the option

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[~TT40~]

I think if you need to do it do it. when im looking after a woman un labour i also see what else they are doing with their screaming. If its working for them i leave it. if they seem to be loosing control or all their energy is being put into the screaming and stoping them push i get them to stop by my breathing with them sometimes i even mimic their sounds (part if being with women). then all that extra energy i get them to use in pushing or rocking.

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[luna moth]

There's vocalising, and then there's screaming. I vocalised, a lot. It was my main tool, but I refer to it as my birthsong, rather than screaming. My DH says it was very peaceful, even though it was loud. I've seen women on One Born Every Minute, who, like Tei says, are losing control, and screaming, and I can see how it could be mistaken. I like to think I was yelling with the "flow" the pain, not *because of* the pain.

Does that make sense?

[Sterla]

There's vocalising, and then there's screaming. I vocalised, a lot. It was my main tool, but I refer to it as my birthsong, rather than screaming....I like to think I was yelling with the "flow" the pain, not *because of* the pain.

Exactly this! I made a lot of noise through my labour with DD. At first it was low pitched, and into transition it became louder and a little bit more scream-like, but it wasn't about the pain - it was my way of coping, of trying to be 'bigger' than the pain of the contraction if that makes sense. As noisy as I was through the contractions, once it was over I was very quiet - barely spoke a word in fact. We all cope in different ways.

[luna moth]

Exactly this! I made a lot of noise through my labour with DD. At first it was low pitched, and into transition it became louder and a little bit more scream-like, but it wasn't about the pain - it was my way of coping, of trying to be 'bigger' than the pain of the contraction if that makes sense. As noisy as I was through the contractions, once it was over I was very quiet - barely spoke a word in fact. We all cope in different ways.

Makes so much sense! I mentally refer to it as yelling over the top of the pain so I couldn't "hear" it.

[jellybean88]

It sounded like I was screaming it of control but it stopped me feeling pain

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[skybie]

screaming helps me with the pain too!
though i wouldnt call it screaming more like a really really loud moan!
i did it with my first 3 births, my last one i only hollered 2-3 times suprisingly!

[Cranky Kitten]

Bah, yell as much as you need to. With DD my midwives nicknamed me "the Italian" as I was very vocal, but I wasn't so much with DS until the pushing stage where I'd yell at the end of a huge push.

[Dansta]

with DJ - i wasnt screaming i was bellowing. it was long and low and i also punched the walls in the loo. bellowing wasnt as good in the birth pool room LOL kinda ecoy

With Vic he was too quick i did let rip at the scurity gard though, poor man. he was really nice too

i found that if rather then scream i bellowed, long and low when pushing it helped. kinda primal if you ask me.

[LionsandBears]

I sound like a whale or cow, the primal bellowing Dansta mentioned. With DS2, I spent a lit of time in the birth pool, banging the side of the bath & lowing I deliberately keep it low, as a high tone can make me feel panicky. I breathe in slowly and then vocalise a long aaaahhh as I breathe out.

It wasnt so obvious with DS1, as I was using hypnobabies. The midwives knew I was at pushing stage when I started roaring. And it was a full throated, reaching deep into the earth kind of roar. Very empowering

[~TT40~]

Theres are difference between the primal bellow like roar and a scream of fear and panic. First is really productive and empowering the 2nd isnt at all and can actually stop progress. its the 2nd i stop but i stop by getting the woman make a noise like the first rather than telling her to shut up completely

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[jellybean88]

I was surprised I was told to ve quiet cause I was in labour 5 hours and pushed him out in 3 contractions (induced so it was really painful)

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[LuluHB]

I didn't make any noise at all, and barely spoke through active labour of either birth. The only exception was when I yelled "OH MY GOD" when my waters broke with DD2 - went from a so so, I guess I'm in labour kind of feeling to her crowning within seconds of my waters breaking so I didn't get much of a chance to ease into it IYKWIM. Otherwise, not a word. I tend to shut down vocally.

I was actually amazed at how quiet the labour ward was when DD1 was born. It was absolutely packed, with every single room taken but we didn't hear anyone else. A friend gave birth in January this year and she said all she could hear was the woman in the next room screaming her lungs out.

[Netix]

Apparently I was loud for both I think. I can't remember. One of those things you block out I guess? The manageress at ds's old daycare wws in the birthing ward at the same time as me, and heard me....

I think one of the mw's (and the Man) both told me not to scream (i *think*), and im pretty sure i told them i couldnt help it. They wanted me to concentrate that energy on something else, instead of using it as, maybe, a distraction from the pain? Sorry, its a bit hard for me to explain, because I just don't remember to be exact.

I'm hoping I go 'better' this (last and final) time around.

[TeniBear]

I did the good kind of yell ONCE (in memory). It had been building up for hours but I had been stuck in a room with a new mum and baby and had to keep quiet. It was such a relief to let go for a couple of contractions before I lost control again

[Happy1]

I used juju sundin's birth skills and definitely found as intensity increased I moved from physical activities to vocalizing. As many of you have mentioned I matched the pain and thus didn't feel any pain. It was amazing!!

[lilima]

I had two silent births. As soon. As contractions started, almost felt like I was meditating. Apparently I didn't make a single noise, so the MW didn't even realize I had transitioned and was ready to push!

I think it is what works best or you. But I understand that the MW would be trying to change the focus if they think that you are losing control.