I wish I knew that I had choices about birthing my child. I wish that I had realised that birthing is a natural process in most circumstances that doesn't need medical intervention to speed it up or get the baby out quickly.

I wish I was told that breastfeeding doesn't always come naturally. I wish that I was never told that my baby should be feed 3 hourly and put into a routine pronto!!! This simple bit of knowledge may have saved a lot of tears. I was never told about skin to skin contact or that babies need breast for comfort.

I wish that all my well meaning relos would have stayed away for at least a day so that we could bond with our baby in peace and quiet. It is a bit hard to establish feeding with 10 other adults in the room with you for the whole day