Thanks Satya and Hoobley.
Saw my ob again and voiced my concerns/ opnions as she did hers. I must admit she was very understanding and said at the end of the day its my descion and she will do everything necessary to support that. But (isnt there always a but) she really pushed the CS again, saying that she has never seen such a short perineum and what would be a graze to someone else would be at least a 2nd degree tear with me. She also said an epi is just not an option as there is no where to go with it! She said if i labour before scheduled cs (16th of Jan, EDD 26th Jan) she is more than happy to let me go, not sure if i want to be wishing for a pre term bub though. So as for now im leavin it at that, i seriously cant have anymore sleepless nights over this i look at both ways and i just see no way out. And Satya, i do often wonder if my need for fertility assisstance this time had something to do with a psychological effect of my previous experience, as with DS i fell preg straight away, who knows how the mind works and they never could find any reason for my sub fertility?
Hoobley, KWYM about the pneumothorax, was just one of those things, it was more the 4.5 hours of them trying to stitch me up that was the worst because i couldnt be with DS and they really didnt know at that stage what was wrong with him.
Well i aslo had a scan and placenta hasnt moved from right over the top of my cervix so maybe i wont have to make a choice? ( But still very hopeful of it moving )
Again thanks so much i do really appreciate such educated opnions. Thanks