Thanks girls. I realy like my student midwife. I just dont want to ask her to do something and it isnt her "job" so to speak.

I also want to feel like I have space if I need it without seeming rude.

At DD's birth, the midwives left me to myself unless I needed them. I was happy to be in my zone in the shower. I didnt even want DH in there. Just made him come in and check on me if I called out to him. I know every birth is different so not sure what I will want.