Why am I being made to do this?

[AndiE]

Krikkit,

While I've no medical background, I reckon that's got to be a load of crap. As you say ... does every woman who's had a lap have a c/s? And what about all those who VBAC without any probs ... While I had two great experiences with a good Ob (she was prepared to let me deliver naturally despite a very low-lying placenta), like in any profession, you get your idiots.

I definitely agree that you should get another opinion. Not sure how easy it would be for you to change obs, but you could also go down the path of having a delivery in the public system. Sorry, but to me this just illustrates how horribly medicalised and clinical the birthing of some babies has become.

Why do you need a c/s if everything is fine with you and your bub? Obviously a different story if there is a health/medical issue - c/s are obviously a necessary and life-saving op. If you're not sure what to do re: staying/leaving your Ob, maybe get your Ob to explain in exact detail why he believes a c/s is necessary - debate him on it, argue with him black and blue if you have to. Be sure he's advising it for a valid reason. Ask him why won't he at least let you TRY to have a natural birth ... and just as importantly, support you 100pc to do it.

Good luck with things - it can be hard enough being pg, let alone having a "clinical" Obstetrician who messes with your head.

ETA - I took a while writing this (I'd only seen your original post at the time I responded) - sounds like you've decided to go on a fact finding mission ... again, good luck and all the best.