I think we are so fixated on being grateful for what we have that we have missed the point that women are losing their power and confidence at birth and this has major issues attached to it. They need to be involved in the decision making process, and be given balanced information.
This is exactly what I'm talking about Kelly. For me this time around it's not about the birth, it's about being empowered by the research I have done, being empowered by making my own decisions & not being pushed into anything. About knowing that I can do this with the right support & information. I am realistic though, if I have another c/s then so be it, I'm not going into my VBAC gung-ho thinking that it will 100% definitely happen. I know that there is a possiblilty that I will need another c/s and I'm fine with that.

A natural birth is important to me for all the benefits it gives to mum & bub, absolutely. But what I'm trying to say is that if I do have another c/s the important thing will be that I did it with knowledge, things would be different to Zander's birth because I will make them different. It will be on my terms & that's what it's all about for me. It will be empowering, because although it's a c/s it will be done on my terms. I am hoping though that it doesn't come to that.