Hi Sarah,

I had an emergency c/s with my first and had a VBAC with my 2nd. My ob was extremely supportive even encouraging me to try for a VBAC. I ended up having a forceps delivery as Lachlan was 5 weeks early and had foetal brachycardia. However, I had a great midwife and the experience was so much better (painful but better) than the c/s because I felt I had some sort of control over what was happening. I had a healthy baby and a much quicker recovery time. I agree with everyone else about your sister. I truly think you cant make judgements about peoples birth plans at least until you have had a child of your own. Support is so important, with my third the midwife was hardly in the room and I had a horrible labour and I think I was actually traumatised by it, I put this down to the lack of support. I think you are making a good decision because it is informed. I am sure you will find an ob to support you. Good luck with everything, your sister will figure it out one day.